★★★★★
“I read this in a day and got through a lot of tissues in the process.”
S Perks
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A true story of infertility, adoption, faith and family
Family didn’t happen the way we planned.
It happened in ways we never imagined.
How Hard Can It Be? is the honest, funny and moving story of one couple’s journey through heartbreak, waiting, fostering, adoption and the unexpected beauty of becoming a family.
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The question that started everything
How hard can it be…?
We thought becoming parents would be the next natural chapter. Instead, the story took us through places we never expected to go.
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To become parents?
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To keep hoping?
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To survive loss?
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To let go of the plan?
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To open your home?
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To become a family?
Harder than we imagined.
More beautiful too.The book
A story about losing the plan and finding a family.
Two voices. One story.
We expected parenthood to be the next straightforward chapter. Instead, we found ourselves navigating infertility, repeated miscarriage, grief, fostering, adoption and the complicated, beautiful work of becoming a family.
Told from both our perspectives, How Hard Can It Be? is honest about the moments that hurt, the questions that did not have tidy answers, and the humour that somehow kept appearing in the middle of it all.
“I need a new story.”
From the opening prologue
Reader reviews
Readers have laughed, cried and stayed up far too late.
From miscarriage and infertility to fostering, adoption and family life, readers have connected with the honesty, humour and hope at the heart of How Hard Can It Be?
★★★★★
“Insightful and heart-breaking along with hilarious and ultimately victorious.”
Tonilyn Davis
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★★★★★
“You’ll feel the lows and the absolute joy, sometimes in one paragraph.”
Lynsey
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★★★★★
“Painfully honest and yet heart-warming at the same time.”
Joanna Pummell
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★★★★★
“Powerful, poignant and pickled with humour.”
David White
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★★★★★
“I didn’t want it to end.”
Suzanne Charlton
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Meet the writers
Three voices helped tell one extraordinary family story.
How Hard Can It Be? was written from Clare and Jeremy’s perspectives, with writer Jane Knoop helping shape their memories, conversations and experiences into one honest, moving account.
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Clare Wilson
Clare tells the story with honesty, tenderness and the occasional raised eyebrow. Her chapters trace infertility, miscarriage, grief, fostering, adoption and the beautiful disorder of family life.
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Jeremy Wilson
Jeremy brings a second perspective to the same journey, sharing the moments of waiting, uncertainty, faith, fatherhood and hope that shaped their family.
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Jane Knoop
Jane helped Clare and Jeremy turn years of memories into a book that feels immediate and intimate, preserving two distinctive voices while weaving them into one unfolding story.
“A story can hold heartbreak and humour on the same page.”
Begin the story
Family didn’t happen the way we planned. But it became more beautiful than we imagined.
A true story of infertility, miscarriage, grief, fostering, adoption, faith, laughter and the unexpected beauty of becoming a family.
★★★★★
“Honest, moving and inspiring.”
Amazon reader review
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